The Christian Gays Website is still very much under construction and will forever be a work in progress. Our numbers are small, but this is a re-build of our old site that grew to over 10,000 members, so I hope you will subscribe, have patience while we grow, and help us build this new community.
Our purpose is two-fold.Â First, we want to provide information to help educate people that there is no conflict with Scripture for a person to be gay and Christian.Â Just as Scripture was misunderstood to promote slavery, so now we have a better understanding about the â€śclobber versesâ€ť used against us, and we want to share the answers we have found.Â Look in theÂ RESOURCES SECTION forÂ articles, videos, personal stories, downloadable ebooks and more.
Second, we want to connect people, whether it be for group support, friendship or more. To accomplish that goal we have several methods.
Individual ConnectionsÂ can be made via theÂ Dating Service and Friend Finder.
We pray that you might find what you seek.
Our membership consists of sincere people of all ages, all genders, all faiths, at all stages of life, and all stages of reconciliation of their faith and sexuality.
Some are completely closeted, some are out to family members or a few friends, and some are totally â€śoutâ€ť.
Some of our members are here to learn how to understand their LGBTIQ+ family.
No matter your reason for coming, you are sure to find others who will understand, support and pray with you if you wish.
I have dealt with frauds and scammers forÂ 16 years on our old websites, (see list ofÂ Fraud NamesÂ that I have stopped over the years), and in that time I have learned much. Â
This new website has been set up with many precautions in place, based on my previous experience.
First, we charge a very small fee to belong to Christian Gays (minimum $2/mo). We only accept PayPal for a reason. PayPal verifies that the person is who they say they are by depositing money in their bank account to set up an account with them. Therefore every member has been subject to PayPalâ€™s vetting. This is the main reason we charge the fee.
Next, we have security software working 24/7 in the background.
a) It will automatically block a userâ€™s IP address if they try to login without first being registered with us.
b) It will block a personâ€™s IP if they try to login with the wrong username or password after a few attempts.
c) It will block a userâ€™s IP if they are not registered but use Forgot Password link.
d) It blocks known spammers and frauds from even registering.
I am also notified of the IP address and country of every registration and login, so I know who is online and when.
We also have audio video chat. If there is any question of a personâ€™s identity, you can always ask to see them â€śin personâ€ť, and of course if you have any concerns at all about a member, please write to me and I will investigate immediately.
I believe, without reservation, that Christian Gays is the safest website on the internet for people to meet each other.
â€śChristian standardsâ€ť mean that there is to be no blatant or titillating sexuality or immorality in your username, email address, profile, forum posts or chat conversations.
Disregard of this rule will result in immediate removal of content and membership.
Do not mis-read this to think that we donâ€™t talk â€śsexâ€ť on this website. We talk a lot about sex, especially in the Hot Topics Chat Room, but there are some rules.
Our â€śsex talkâ€ť is for the purpose of education and enlightenment, and finding out about ourselves and others.
No â€śgutter languageâ€ť is allowed, body parts must be referred to by their anatomically correct name, and sex talk for the purpose of stimulation is not allowed.
It also means that we have respect for all. We do not criticize other faiths, cultures or beliefs. All are welcome here.
Controversial issues make for great topics of discussion, and different perspectives offer opportunities to examine our own beliefs, and if they are still valid for us. We want to promote learning and growing, especially in our spiritual lives.
People are always free to disagree with posts made by others, but they are not free to disrespect, in any way, the person who posted.
The safest way to accomplish this, if you have a rebuttal, is to first acknowledge the personâ€™s point(s) to which you refer, and then preface your response with something like â€śOn the other hand, I believe â€¦.â€ť
This allows the person who originally posted to know that they have been heard, and they do not need to defend their position. It also allows other opinions on the subject to be introduced respectfully.
We will never all have the same opinions. Hallelujah! That would be so boring! We just need to make sure our conversations are Christ-like and not hurtful to anyone.
Youâ€™ve come to the right place.Â You are the reason we exist.Â We want you to find friends and/or your soul mate and we have had many successes.Â See ourÂ Testimonials.
We have a whole section of the website specifically devoted to finding Friends and more.
Go to our Dating Service and Friend Finder
Then read the FAQâ€™s on that page.
The List Serve is a group of people who want to connect with each other by email.
When you subscribe to Christian Gays you will automatically be a part of the List Serve.
You will receive emails from other members, and you can choose to read, delete or reply.
If you want to write to the group you will see the email address at the bottom of every letter. Your email to that address will go to everyone in the group.
If you donâ€™t want to deal with all the mail, you have two options.
Go to My Stuff -> Subscribe / Unsubscribe List Serve
- Set your option to Daily Digest (one email a day with summary of all emails from that day)
- Unsubscribe from the List Serve completely
If you need any help with either one, write to mary@ChristianGays.com and I will do it for you.
Note: If you were a member of Christian Gays before the List Serve was set up, please go to My Stuff -> List Serve â€“ Subscribe / Unsubscribe to subscribe.
You have the option of who will be able to see each field of â€śOnly Meâ€ť or â€śAll Membersâ€ť, so if, for example you donâ€™t want people to know your age, select â€śOnly Meâ€ť for that field.
The reasons we ask for this information are:
1. People want to know at least the basics of who they are talking to â€“ man, woman, teenager or senior, etc. This is just a matter of courtesy.
2. I need to know last names to match PayPal Membership payments with the correct member.
3. The information needs to be there for people who might be searching for someone within certain parameters.
There are three reasons that this website costs money.
On the old Christian Gays Connections website I gave a 7 Day Free Trial Period. Unfortunately that encouraged many â€śless than desirablesâ€ť to register with us. Many were spammers. A lot were frauds. Some were sexually explicit with their profile content and pictures. All of this led to many, many hours of work on my part to keep the website â€ścleanâ€ť.
A PayPal Account assures us that the member is who they say they are, and by charging money, even as little as $2/mo, we will eliminate the frauds and scammers, and will get quality people who sincerely want to connect with our LGBTIQ Community.
I received a lot of comments that our old Connections site had a lot of â€śinactive profilesâ€ť. This is true. Some people registered and never came back, but I didnâ€™t want to delete their profiles in case they wanted to come back some day. Some people changed their email addresses and didnâ€™t update on the website.
By charging people monthly, the website will only have people who are truly interested. Nobody is going to keep paying for something they are not using.
This website resides on a server. Â Servers cost money, and the bigger the server, the more money. Â By charging a minimum amount of money for memberships, it helps to offset the cost of the server and the software.
If you sincerely want to be a part of this community, we want you! Nobody will be turned away for lack of funds.
You will need to register for the $2/mo plan and pay the initial $2.Â After that pleaseÂ send an email to mary@ChristianGays.com with details, and I will be happy to give youÂ a Complimentary Membership.
if you know a current member who will vouch for you, we can bypass the $2 PayPal fee completely.
These are the things we do to be compliant with your Internet Service Providers (ISPs)
1. We sign all emails with a DKIM signature
2. We are DMARC compliant
3. rDNS is set up (not generic)
4. SPF records are set up
5. AOL Feedback Loop is set up
6. We are registered with Outlook JMRP (Junk Mail Reporting Program) and
7. SNDS (Smart Network Data Service Program)
8. The website uses SSL Multi-domain Certificates from Comodo
9. We are registered with Norton as a Safe Site
10. Our IP is static
11. OurÂ sending domainÂ andÂ from addressÂ match â€“ i.e. sending from email@example.com or firstname.lastname@example.org via mail.christiangays.com
12. Unsubscribe link is in all emails
13. Unsubscribe FAQâ€™s is a main link, with complete instructions at https://christiangays.com/unsubscribe-faqs/