18. How To Add An Event To The Calendar

If you know of something happening that might be of interest to others, please post it on our Calendar.

1. Go to My Stuff -> Add or Edit Event

2.  Enter the City, State & Title of the Event or the Name of the Artist.

3.  Enter the address.  A map will be created with directions.

4.  Include as many details as possible, upload a picture if you like.

5.  Enter the start and end days

6.  IMPORTANT:  Choose the Category or it will not show up on the calendar correctly.

7.  Click Publish.

8.  Check that it is on the Calendar and that everything is correct.  If it is not, please Edit.

17. How Do I Add More Pictures To My Profile?

Go to DATING -> Edit Profile, either in the Login Box or DATING -> My Stuff -> Edit Profile

Select Media.

Note:  The Media option is found only on the DATING section of the website for uploading and for viewing the media of other members.


Select Options and Add an Album.  Give it a title and click “Create Album”.

Album Options

Select your files from your computer or just drag and drop them.

Your pictures will be automatically uploaded.  You can then select each one to Edit (add comments) or Delete.

Edit Picture


01. How Do I Add Christian Gays To My White List / Safe Senders?

We ask you to “white list” or add to your “safe senders” the following email addresses so that our mail will not end up bouncing or in your spam folder.

NOTE: If your email bounces it will be removed from the system to avoid getting us blacklisted.

mary@christiangays.com is for newsletters, notifications from forums, contacts from other members.

friends@christiangays.com is for our list serve.

Each Service Provider has a different way of doing this.


1. Add mary@christiangays.com and friends@christiangays.com to your Address Book or Custom Sender List.

2. Click the Spam Controls link on the lower right side of your inbox screen.

3. When the Mail & Spam Controls box appears, click the Custom Sender list link.

4. Choose the Allow email from mary@christiangays.com option.

5. Click Add.

6. Choose the Allow email from friends@christiangays.com option.

7. Click Add.

8. Click Save.

AOL Web Mail

If you are using AOL web mail, simply reply to an email from mary@christiangays.com and friends@christiangays.com and they will automatically add thus as a safe sender.


1. Add us to your contacts by clicking the GMail icon in the top left corner to reveal Contacts

gmail contacts





2. Click on Contacts to reveal a red icon in the bottom right corner





3. Click the red icon and enter the name Christian Gays and click the Create button.






4. Edit the Contact Information by adding mary@christiangays.com and friends@christiangays.com

Edit Contact


Now that you have added us to your contacts please do the following to White List us.

1. Click Show search options downward-pointing triangle in GMail’s main search field. 

2. Under From type christiangays.com

3. Follow the Create filter with this search link at the bottom of the search page.

White List Christian Gays for GMail

4. Make sure Never send it to Spam is checked.

5. Click Create filter.

Never send to spam


Hotmail / Outlook / Live.com

1. Open your mailbox and click “Options” (upper right hand corner).

2. Click the “Junk E-Mail Protection” link.

3. Select the “Safe List” link.

4. Copy and paste mary@christiangays.com into the dialog box titled “Type an address or domain”.

5. Copy and paste friends@christiangays.com into the dialog box titled “Type an address or domain”.

6. Click the “Add” button next to the dialog box.

If the email is in your “Junk E-Mail Folder”, open the email and click the “Not Junk” button.

See a YouTube video here if you need more help.

Yahoo! Mail Users

See this YouTube video


You should also check that the mailing’s email address is not in your Blocked Senders list. You can find your Blocked Senders list by following the directions above and going to “Blocked Senders List” instead of “Safe List”. If you see the mailing’s from address on this list, select it and click the Remove button.

Click here for find the instructions for other providers.

15. Why Have I Been “Locked Out”?

Please do not take this notification personally.  It is merely our security software doing it’s job.  If you enter the wrong username/password combination more than 20 times, you get this message.

What usually causes this is people either making a typo, or when they copy and paste, they accidentally pick up an extra space at the beginning or the end. 

They try it, and when it doesn’t work, the browser enters the same information again, and the person just keeps clicking to try to make it work.

The solution, if you are not able to login on the first try, is to type the information again being very careful to make sure it’s accurate.

If you can’t get in after four or five tries, click on the “Lost Password” link and reset it. 

If that doesn’t work, write to mary@ChristianGays.com with your username and the password you want to use and I’ll reset it for you.


05. How Do I Change My Password?


Change My PasswordGo to My Stuff -> Change My Password






Enter your new password twice, and click to Save Changes.

Change Password - save changes










Click to Save Changes.

02. Why Is It Important To Complete My Profile?

There are THREE areas to fill in, the “Required Information”, the “Additional Information (Optional)”, and “I am on this website because (Optional)”).  

You are only required to fill in the first section (Required Information), but I really encourage you to fill in all items in all three categories if you want others to find you when they do an ADVANCED MEMBER SEARCH.

One of the options in Advanced Member Search is to search by keyword, so if, for example you love movies, and someone is searching for members with “movies” in their profile, they will find you.

You complete your profile by logging in and going to “My Stuff” -> “Edit Profile”


12. How Do I Cancel My Membership?

I hope you won’t want to cancel your membership.  We really need all of our members.  If you haven’t had any luck finding the person you seek, please don’t lose heart.  They might join next week and you won’t know if you leave us.

If you can’t afford your membership with us we can convert it to a Complimentary Membership.

If you have another issue please write to Mary and let’s talk about it.

But if you have decided that you really want to leave us there are two steps.

Login.  Go to My Stuff -> Cancel My Membership. 

This will take you to the cancellation page.


Step 1

Click the “Cancel My PayPal Subscription” button.

Cancel PayPal Subscription



This will take you to PayPal where you can cancel your subscription.  This will stop any future payments from being taken.


Step 2

Go to My Stuff -> View Profile.

Click Settings.

Click the link that says Delete Account.

Delete Account




This will bring up a box that tells you this action cannot be undone.

Delete Account Confirm






Tick the box to agree that you understand the consequences and then click the “Delete Account” button.

At that point all of your profile information will be removed from our records, and your forum posts will be attributed to “anonymous”.


04. How Do I Put Pics In My Posts?

When you are in “Visual” Editor you will see the following icons.  Click on the icon to Insert Image. 




This will bring up a small blank box.  Wait for a moment and you will see this. 





You can now choose your image from an URL or click on the camera (blue box) to upload from your computer. 

You can add a description and dimensions or leave it blank. 

If the picture is too big you can later edit it by clicking on the pencil and changing one of the dimensions.  Just make sure to tick “Constrain proportions”.