01. How Do I Add Christian Gays To My White List / Safe Senders?

We ask you to “white list” or add to your “safe senders” the following email addresses so that our mail will not end up bouncing or in your spam folder.

NOTE: If your email bounces it will be removed from the system to avoid getting us blacklisted.

mary@christiangays.com is for newsletters, notifications from forums, contacts from other members.

friends@christiangays.com is for our list serve.

Each Service Provider has a different way of doing this.


1. Add mary@christiangays.com and friends@christiangays.com to your Address Book or Custom Sender List.

2. Click the Spam Controls link on the lower right side of your inbox screen.

3. When the Mail & Spam Controls box appears, click the Custom Sender list link.

4. Choose the Allow email from mary@christiangays.com option.

5. Click Add.

6. Choose the Allow email from friends@christiangays.com option.

7. Click Add.

8. Click Save.

AOL Web Mail

If you are using AOL web mail, simply reply to an email from mary@christiangays.com and friends@christiangays.com and they will automatically add thus as a safe sender.


1. Add us to your contacts by clicking the GMail icon in the top left corner to reveal Contacts

gmail contacts





2. Click on Contacts to reveal a red icon in the bottom right corner





3. Click the red icon and enter the name Christian Gays and click the Create button.






4. Edit the Contact Information by adding mary@christiangays.com and friends@christiangays.com

Edit Contact


Now that you have added us to your contacts please do the following to White List us.

1. Click Show search options downward-pointing triangle in GMail’s main search field. 

2. Under From type christiangays.com

3. Follow the Create filter with this search link at the bottom of the search page.

White List Christian Gays for GMail

4. Make sure Never send it to Spam is checked.

5. Click Create filter.

Never send to spam


Hotmail / Outlook / Live.com

1. Open your mailbox and click “Options” (upper right hand corner).

2. Click the “Junk E-Mail Protection” link.

3. Select the “Safe List” link.

4. Copy and paste mary@christiangays.com into the dialog box titled “Type an address or domain”.

5. Copy and paste friends@christiangays.com into the dialog box titled “Type an address or domain”.

6. Click the “Add” button next to the dialog box.

If the email is in your “Junk E-Mail Folder”, open the email and click the “Not Junk” button.

See a YouTube video here if you need more help.

Yahoo! Mail Users

See this YouTube video


You should also check that the mailing’s email address is not in your Blocked Senders list. You can find your Blocked Senders list by following the directions above and going to “Blocked Senders List” instead of “Safe List”. If you see the mailing’s from address on this list, select it and click the Remove button.

Click here for find the instructions for other providers.

15. Why Have I Been “Locked Out”?

Please do not take this notification personally.  It is merely our security software doing it’s job.  If you enter the wrong username/password combination more than 20 times, you get this message.

What usually causes this is people either making a typo, or when they copy and paste, they accidentally pick up an extra space at the beginning or the end. 

They try it, and when it doesn’t work, the browser enters the same information again, and the person just keeps clicking to try to make it work.

The solution, if you are not able to login on the first try, is to type the information again being very careful to make sure it’s accurate.

If you can’t get in after four or five tries, click on the “Lost Password” link and reset it. 

If that doesn’t work, write to mary@ChristianGays.com with your username and the password you want to use and I’ll reset it for you.


05. How Do I Change My Password?


Change My PasswordGo to My Stuff -> Change My Password






Enter your new password twice, and click to Save Changes.

Change Password - save changes










Click to Save Changes.

02. Why Is It Important To Complete My Profile?

There are THREE areas to fill in, the “Required Information”, the “Additional Information (Optional)”, and “I am on this website because (Optional)”).  

You are only required to fill in the first section (Required Information), but I really encourage you to fill in all items in all three categories if you want others to find you when they do an ADVANCED MEMBER SEARCH.

One of the options in Advanced Member Search is to search by keyword, so if, for example you love movies, and someone is searching for members with “movies” in their profile, they will find you.

You complete your profile by logging in and going to “My Stuff” -> “Edit Profile”


12. How Do I Cancel My Membership?

I hope you won’t want to cancel your membership.  We really need all of our members.  If you haven’t had any luck finding the person you seek, please don’t lose heart.  They might join next week and you won’t know if you leave us.

If you can’t afford your membership with us we can convert it to a Complimentary Membership.

If you have another issue please write to Mary and let’s talk about it.

But if you have decided that you really want to leave us there are two steps.

Login.  Go to My Stuff -> Cancel My Membership. 

This will take you to the cancellation page.


Step 1

Click the “Cancel My PayPal Subscription” button.

Cancel My PayPal Subscription



This will take you to PayPal where you can cancel your subscription.  This will stop any future payments from being taken.


Step 2

Go to My Stuff -> View Profile.

Click Settings.

Click the link that says Delete Account.

Delete Account Link




This will bring up a box that tells you this action cannot be undone.

Delete Account






Tick the box to agree that you understand the consequences and then click the “Delete Account” button.

At that point all of your profile information will be removed from our records, and your forum posts will be attributed to “anonymous”.


08. My Post In The Forum Has Funny Symbols Inserted

This happens when you copy and paste from the internet or another application like Word.  Invisible HTML characters get inserted. To avoid this, use the Text (HTML) Editor instead of Visual Editor, or edit your post first in a Plain Text Editor like NotePad.visual text tab  

You can always go back in and “Edit” your post to delete the extra symbols as another option.


06. How Do I Send A Private Message To Someone?

Find the Member you want to Private Message by going to Members -> List of Members

List of Members





In the top right corner you can do a Search for the Member you wish to message.

Search Members



Click on the link for their name and beside their profile you will see buttons to Send Compliment or Private Message.




Click Private Message and fill in the form.  Click “Send Message”.

11. How Do I Find People Near Me?

There is a Basic Member Search box on the left side of the page with Location as one of the options.  Enter the Location you want and click the Search Button.

If you want to be more specific you can do the Advanced Member Search and narrow your search down by province or state or even city.

If you want to narrow the search even more you can also select sexual identity and/or age range or even keyword. 

When searching you can use one, some, or all parameters.  Just remember that the more parameters you enter, the fewer the results you’ll get.

When you see the list of people click on the name and view the profile.  If it looks interesting, send them a private message. 

Remember that some people are willing to relocate, so even if you are not willing to move, you might find someone who will come to you.